Look beyond the phrases, take time to feel and understand deeper . . .

Phrases don’t always give me the whole picture. I sometimes have to look for the hidden wound, at what someone has experienced. I have to ask why this issue seems to be a big deal to the person. 

I listen for the pain, understanding that sometimes the pain doesn’t have anything to do with me. Some pain is so deep it clouds every interaction someone has. The words may just be a mask, covering the pain of hidden wound.

Learning to listen in love means looking past the things people are saying to what they might be feeling. 

If I am humble, I am open to new ideas. If I am loving and sympathetic, I will not bite back. If people get angry at me, I know to look past their anger and ask, “What are they afraid of? What are they anxious or fearful about? What has hurt them?”

Even when faced with harsh words, a great listener always chooses love.

I don't always know people well enough to figure out exactly what’s pressing on their wound; nerves.

I may not be able to figure out what’s going on with their emotions. I have to choose humility and kindness instead of getting the last word. I need to give people grace instead of making my point. When people lash out or get defensive, it’s often because they’re afraid, insecure, or frustrated.

I may know the solution, but I have to learn to hold off. If I want to be a great listener, I have to listen to someone’s feelings and enter into that person’s pain.

People don’t care what I know until they know that I care. They want to feel heard. They want to feel loved. They want to feel understood.

A reminder from P Warren 


02 Oct 2020

Kerukunan Antar Umat Beragama di Maluku di Masa Pandemi Covid-19

Posting ini semoga memberikan kesejukan bagi pembaca dan perasaan damai tinggal di bumi nusantara yang kadang terasa panas karena konflik antar umat beragama dalam bentuk sahut-sahutan di sosial media atau bahkan sampai perusakan bangunan fisik atau kemarahan yang di umbar kepada sesama yang berbeda anutan.

Sedikit kilas balik tentang konflik berkepanjangan di Ambon yang memakan banyak korban jiwa dan meninggalkan banyak anak yatim piatu 1999-2002. Untuk pertama kalinya, seniman Ambon; (Almarhum) Glenn Fredly menjadi produser film; tahun 2014. Film itu berjudul Cahaya dari Timur: Beta Maluku yang mengisahkan kisah nyata Sani Tawainella, seorang pelatih sepak bola asal Ambon, Maluku. Satu hal yang bikin Glenn tertarik menjadi produser lantaran cerita filmnya. Dia ingin memberitahu dunia bahwa di Indonesia, dalam hal ini Ambon, pernah terjadi konflik berdarah pada 1999. Namun, di balik itu ada nilai perdamaian yang bisa dipetik dari ide Sani mengenai sepak bola.

Sekarang di masa pandemi covid-19 ini, banyak beredar di WAG sebuah video yang menunjukkan seorang pendeta berdoa dekat ambulans bagi kesembuhan suster muslim (Suster Noni) yang terkait  Covid-19. Link video ada bawah. Menit ke 2, menunjukkan suatu moment mengharukan tentang penyambutan Suster Noni dengan musik setelah dinyatakan sehat.

Dari video itu tergambar bahwa di wilayah yang pernah terjadi konflik berdarah antar umat beragama sekarang keadaan berbalik dengan terjalinnya kerukunan antar umat yang indah. Pela Gandong (Persatuan persaudaraan) hidup lagi indah. Damai di bumi bukan jargon yang mustahil terjadi di tanah leluhur nenek moyangku.

Terima kasih untuk AT yang merangkum video tsb berikut wawancara dengan  Suster Nitha Pelu orang yang mengenal Suster Noni yang diceritakan dalam video tsb.

Logat Ambon AT yang luwes membuat saya bertanya, kok bisa ya orang berperawakan seperti AT berlogat Ambon itu 😃👍


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Saya Kembali Nge-Blog

Di masa Pandemic Covid-19 sekarang ini, terbersit dalam pikiran saya untuk kembali melatih diri  menulis di blog. Semoga bermanfaat dan bukan hanya bagi diri sendiri tapi siapapun yg mampir di blog ini.

Terimakasih untuk Google karena blog saya yang sebenarnya sudah di "archived" oleh google karena tidak pernah saya update sejak sekitar 10 tahun masih bisa saya akses/tampilkan dengan cara relatif praktis, mudah. Dari lupa password, sampai menemukan cara edit blog yang sudah di archived (hilang dari dashboard), bisa saya lakukan dalam beberapa menit. Semua disimpan Google dengan gratis- bagi saya selama belasan tahun. Layanan yang luarbiasa. 

Saya mengurangi jatah waktu bersosial media di FB dan WA demi menulis di blog. Selain untuk mengurangi kecemasan akibat banyaknya berita negatif yang bisa terekam dalam alam bawah sadar, saya ingin mengasah kembali yang sudah tumpul. Apa saja? Banyak hal.
Yang jelas, hari ini harus lebih baik dari kemarin; Semper porro...


Salam sehat selalu. May 21, 2020

Hi, I'm baaaaaack....
Carpe Diem!




My life wasn't only in the doctor's hands, it was in God's as well

Let me share this note from Grace Booth, Mississippi (letter counts of the word "Mississippi": s: 4, i: 4, p: 2 and m: 1).

By Grace Booth, Picayune, Mississippi

I was feeling pretty low. It was the week before I was scheduled for gallbladder surgery, and I couldn't escape my worried, gloomy thoughts. The surgeon was highly recommended but was new to me - and he didn't have the best bedside manner. My sister, an experienced operating-room director, who usually put my mind at ease about my medical care, had moved away recently.

This would be my first time facing an operation without her right there by my side.

I was on my own. What if something goes wrong? I tossed and turned all that night.

The next day I decided I had to get my mind off of everything. A good book, that'll do the trick, I thought. I headed to the bookcase in my guest bedroom to get something to read. Next to the bookcase was a stack of novels I had picked up from a library sale over a year ago and had not gotten around to putting away. Right on top I spied a best-selling mystery novel.

This will keep me distracted, I thought. Mysteries are my guilty pleasure.

I sat down in the bedroom, opened the book and began to read. I couldn't believe it - the book's prologue began with a woman awaiting surgery! She was also feeling worried, struggling with knowing if she had chosen the right hospital, the right doctor.

"This is a team effort," the doctor assures her. "We mustn't forget someone very important," he continues, "the most important member of our team. Do you know who that is?"

I read on, breathless.

The doctor pats the woman's .hand gently and points upward. "God," he tells her.

That doctor's words stopped me cold. The connection couldn't have been stronger or the circumstances more real to me.

My life wasn't only in the doctor's hands, it was in God's as well. Just the words that I needed to hear. Immediately I felt more confident and hopeful about the upcoming surgery.

And the most amazing thing? The character's name. It was the same as mine - Grace.

Rainbow

Middle C

"I, the LORD, do not change." Malachi 3:6

When Lloyd Douglas, author of "The Robe" and other novels, attended college, he lived in a boardinghouse. A retired, wheelchair-bound music professor resided on the first floor. Each morning Douglas would stick his head in the door of the teacher's apartment and ask the same question, "Well, what's the good news?" The old man would pick up his tuning fork, tap it on the side of the wheelchair, and say, "That's middle C! It was middle C yesterday; it will be middle C tomorrow; it will be middle C a thousand years from now. The tenor upstairs sings flat. The piano across the hall is out of tune, but, my friend, that is middle C."

You and I need a middle C. Haven't you had enough change in your life? Relationships change. Health changes. The weather changes. But the Yahweh who ruled the earth last night is the same Yahweh who rules it today. Same convictions. Same plan. Same mood. Same love. He never changes.

~Max Lucado; from "Traveling Light"~

I am going to Thank You right now...


Dear GOD:
I want to thank You for what you have already done.
I am not going to wait until I see results or receive rewards;
I am thanking you right now.
I am not going to wait until I feel better or things look better;
I am thanking you right now.
I am not going to wait until people say they are sorry or until they stop talking about me; I am thanking you right now.
I am not going to wait until the pain in my body disappears;
I am thanking you right now.
I am not going to wait until my financial situation improves;
I am going to thank you right now.

I am not going to wait until the children are asleep and the house is quiet;
I am going to thank you right now.

I am not going to wait until I get promoted at work or until I get the job;
I am going to thank you right now.
I am not going to wait until I understand every experience in my life that has caused me pain or grief; I am thanking you right now.
I am not going to wait until the journey gets easier or the challenges are removed; I am thanking you right now.

I am thanking you because I am alive.
I am thanking you because I made it through the day's difficulties.
I am thanking you because I have walked around the obstacles.
I am thanking you because I have the ability and the opportunity to do more
and do better.

I'm thanking you because FATHER, YOU haven't given up on me.

God is just so good, and he's good all the time.

Mimpi Aneh & Kehilangan Dompet

Melihat kembali catatan kejadian di penghujung tahun 2007......

Tadi malam saya bermimpi naik bianglala (komidi putar).
Saat saya diatas, tiba-tiba saya akan jatuh dan saya berpegangan susah payah agar tidak jatuh. Perjuangan saya berpegangan berhasil, saya selamat. Perasaan gelisah saat bangun tidur subuh tadi membuat penasaran.

........................
Hari ini tidak seperti biasanya, langit sore hari keliatan merah.
Dari dalam mobil, saya dan Ismawati (teman semobil jemputan) sampai keheranan dengan wajah langit sore ini. Yang aneh lainnya, saya mampir ke Giant utk belanja sebelum sampai ke rumah.
Padahal tidak ada kebutuhan mendesak. Ini bukan kebiasaan saya.

Nah, rupanya ini arti mimpi saya... (Setuju nggak??)

Saat akan bayar tukang gas (tabung), saya tidak bisa menemukan dompet saya. Cari sana sini, bongkar sana sini, gak ketemu. Dengan perasaan gelisah, saya telfon Pak Don, Pak Aryo, Pak Sri, Pak Nasikun, HSBC, Papi, teman, dll...

Hampir setengah jam kemudian dapat kabar bahwa di mobil tidak ditemukan dompet saya.... Mmmm....
Cape dech... KTP baru, ATM Mandiri baru, bersusah payah ngurusnya... semua hilang sekejap.
Kebayang ribetnya ngurus semua itu. Untuk telfon blokir kartu kredit sampai 20 menit baru berhasil.

Entah dari mana, perasaan mendorong saya pergi kembali ke Giant.
Logika saya, wach, hari genee mana mungkin ada orang yg mau mengembalikan dompet jatuh.
Paling2, uangnya diambil, dompetnya di buang. Males ach..

Ternyata saya salah, masih banyak orang2 baik dan jujur..
Kasir yang cantik dan baik hati, menitipkan dompet saya yang jatuh ke petugas keamanan.
Ah, rasanya seluruh uang yang ada dalam dompet ingin kuberikan pada nya sbgrasa terimakasihku....
Tapi hanya seperempat yang kuberikan pdnya... Sisanya ku berjanji mau kasih utk sumbangan natal...
he he he.... :-)

Sepertinya mimpi saya ada link dgn pengalaman kehilangan dompet malam ini....

THE "M" FACTOR

By Lisa Johnson, Julie Dickison, Melea Fisher and Natalie Krause

Our Mother turns 80 tomorrow November 14th and we four daughters have gathered to celebrate with her (but, shhh . it's a surprise . she is still in transit and doesn't know we've traveled from across the country)!  Meanwhile, we are lounging on our first day together, still in our PJs and naturally we started to reminisce .

Like most everyone, we think our Mother is pretty indescribable! She has what we like to call, 'the M Factor'.

Mother started life on a 14,000 acre ranch in Montana. Her work ethic was formed and has been more than replicated in all of her girls!

The "M" factor: Complete the job and don't be a half done Polly!
Mother has an intense fear of water, developed as a young girl after her brother tragically drowned. She has worked hard to conquer her fear, and wasn't going to accept it in any of her daughters. Our parents required each of us (there was no discussion) to complete lifeguard certification.

The "M" factor: Don't pass on to your children your own fears.
When Mother became a Christian as a teenager she found her real passion in life and we are forever thankful for the love of Christ she has shared with us. Inscribed in our parents' wedding bands is their personal motto "Each for the other, both for Christ".

The "M" factor: Our marriages must be caught up in a purpose larger than itself.
As we grew into adults, we discovered that our Mother had been a 'cougar' and 'feminist' without even realizing it! She married in 1955 at the age of 26 (considered old at the time) to a 21 year old!
Mother, a nurse, was the primary provider for the family of three once Lisa arrived on the scene, working nights while Daddy finished college.

The "M" Factor: There is no such thing as 'woman's work' or 'man's work'.
When our Daddy started his own business, Mother happily became a stay at home Mom. As each of us grew up, she determined to teach us what she considered were three essential life skills: how to make a quilt, how to cut up a whole chicken, and how to can fresh produce.

The "M" Factor: While we may laugh at these skills now, we have since discovered that what we really gained was the ability to be creative, frugal, and self-sufficient.
Mother was often at the forefront of what would much later be an accepted trend. Before it was popular, we ate unprocessed foods, made our own bread, used environmentally friendly laundry detergents, and took whole food supplements!

The "M" Factor: Don't be afraid to question the 'norm', to lead even if no one is following.
Our greatest joy has been to be present while our parents have achieved some of their dreams. Mother always wanted to live in Australia, and the opportunity presented itself when she was 55 years old!
They didn't hesitate to take the risk.

The "M" Factor: Dreams come true only as you work towards them.
Retirement for Mother has yet to happen. She still runs a business with our Daddy, providing endless nutritional advice. At the age of 70, she took a class to conquer the Internet and Power Point. At age 79 she was introduced to Facebook and keeps in touch with her grandchildren and is considering whether she should start a blog!

The "M" Factor: Learning never stops.
We admire our Mother for everything she has taught us. For all that makes her who she is .

The "M" factor: our model, our mentor, and best of all, our Mother.

Happy 80th Birthday Mother, we love you!

Your Darling Daughters,
Julie, Lisa, Natalie and Melea

Beatitudes For Parents

Blessed are those parents who make their peace with spilled milk and mud, for of such is the kingdom of childhood.

Blessed is the parent who engages not in the comparison of his child with others, for precious unto each is the rhythm of his own growth.

Blessed are the fathers and mothers who have learned laughter, for it is the music of the child's world.

Blessed and wise are those parents who understand the goodness of time, for they make it not a sword that kills growth but a shield to protect.

Blessed and mature are they who without anger can say "no," for comforting to the child is the security of firm decisions.

Blessed is the gift of consistency, for it is heart's-ease in childhood.

Blessed are they who accept the awkwardness of growth, for they are aware of the choice between marred furnishings and damaged personalities.

Blessed are the teachable, for knowledge brings understanding, and understanding brings love.

Blessed are the men and women who in the midst of the unpromising mundane, give love, for they bestow the greatest of all gifts to each other, to their children, and -- in an ever-widening circle -- to their fellow men.

Blessed are those who read these words...but more blessed will be they who follow them!

By Marion E. Kinneman (1895-1985)

Multitasker Person & To GOD.Com

This is an illustration.... and ooo.... How true it is....

I'm a master multi-tasker.
I eat breakfast while I drive.
Even make calls while I'm steering.
In one hour, I work five.
I check scores while sending e-mail.
It's called working while you play.
I can exercise while reading.
And I worry while I pray.

I can shave while I am showering.
I watch news while getting dressed.
I drink coffee walking Fido.
Maybe that's why I am stressed.
Doing just one thing seems lazy.
There's so much that must get done.
So I'm dreaming while I'm working how to sleep while on the run.


Copyright 2005 by Greg Asimakoupoulos, Mercer Island, WA Rhymes 'n Reasons/The Partial Observer

It's a funny pray yet meaningful....

Dear Lord,

Every single evening As I'm lying here in bed,
This tiny little Prayer Keeps running through my head:
God bless all my family Wherever they may be,
Keep them warm and safe from harm For they're so close to me.
And God, there is one more thingI wish that you could do; Hope you don't mind me asking,
Please bless my computer too.

Now I know that it's unusual To Bless a motherboard,
But listen just a second While I explain it to you, Lord.
You see, that little metal box Holds more than odds and ends;
Inside those small compartments Rest so many of my friends.
I know so much about them By the kindness that they give,
And this little scrap of metal Takes me in to where they live.

By faith is how I know them Much the same as you
We share in what life brings us And from that our friendships grew.
Please take an extra minute From your duties up above,
To bless those in my address book That's filled with so much love.
Wherever else this prayer may reach To each and every friend,
Bless each e-mail inboxAnd each person who hits "send".
When you update your Heavenly list On your own Great CD-ROM,
Bless everyone who says this prayer Sent up to GOD.com





Amen





Thump-Thud, Thump-Thud

When a potter bakes a pot, he checks its solidity by pulling it out of the oven and thumping it. If it “sings,” it’s ready. If it “thuds,” it’s placed back in the oven.

The character of a person is also checked by thumping.

Been thumped lately?

Late-night phone calls. Grouchy teacher. Grumpy moms. Burnt meals. Flat tires. You’ve-got-to-be-kidding deadlines. Those are thumps. Thumps are those irritating inconveniences that trigger the worst in us. They catch us off guard. Flat-footed. They aren’t big enough to be crises, but if you get enough of them, watch out! Traffic jams. Long lines. Empty mailboxes. Dirty clothes on the floor. Even as I write this, I’m being thumped. Because of interruptions, it has taken me almost two hours to write these two paragraphs. Thump. Thump. Thump.

How do I respond? Do I sing, or do I thud?

Jesus said that out of the nature of the heart a man speaks (Luke 6:45). There’s nothing like a good thump to reveal the nature of a heart. The true character of a person is seen not in momentary heroics but in the thump-packed humdrum of day-to-day living.

If you have a tendency to thud more than you sing, take heart.

There is hope for us “thudders”:

Begin by thanking God for thumps. I don’t mean a half-hearted thank-you. I mean a rejoicing, jumping-for-joy thank-you from the bottom of your heart (James 1:2). Chances are that God is doing the thumping. And he’s doing it for your own good. So every thump is a reminder that God is molding you (Hebrews 12:5-8).

Learn from each thump. Face up to the fact that you are not “thump-proof.” You are going to be tested from now on. You might as well learn from the thumps—you can’t avoid them. Look upon each inconvenience as an opportunity to develop patience and persistence. Each thump will help you or hurt you, depending on how you use it.

Be aware of “thump-slump” times. Know your pressure periods. For me, Mondays are infamous for causing thump-slumps. Fridays can be just as bad. For all of us, there are times during the week when we can anticipate an unusual amount of thumping. The best way to handle thump-slump times? Head on. Bolster yourself with extra prayer, and don’t give up.

Remember no thump is disastrous. All thumps work for good if we are loving and obeying God.

This article is Max Lucado's

You are Never too Old to Study, to Learn, to Live


Another inspiring woman...

Sitting on the front row in her college classes carefully taking notes, Nola Ochs is just as likely to answer questions as to ask them. That's not the only thing distinguishing her from fellow students at Fort Hays State University. She's 95, and when she graduates May 12, she'll be what is believed to be the world's oldest person to be awarded a college degree.

She didn't plan it that way. She just loved to learn as a teenager on a Hodgeman County farm, then as a teacher at a one-room school after graduating from high school and later as a farm wife and mother.

"That yearning for study was still there. I came here with no thought of it being an unusual thing at all," she said. "It was something I wanted to do. It gave me a feeling of satisfaction. I like to study and learn."

The record Ochs will break, according to Guinness World Records, belongs to Mozelle Richardson, who at age 90 in 2004 received a journalism degree from the University of Oklahoma.

"We should all be so lucky and do such amazing things. Her achievement challenges us all to reach for our own goals and dreams," said Tom Nelson, AARP chief operating officer in Washington.

She's getting offers for television appearances, and reporters show up wanting to interview her. She acknowledges enjoying it.

"It brings attention to this college and this part of the state. Good people live here," she said. "And I still wear the same size hat."

But she added: "I don't dwell on my age. It might limit what I can do. As long as I have my mind and health, it's just a number."

Ochs is proudest of being the matriarch of a family that includes three sons — a fourth died in 1995 — along with 13 grandchildren and 15 great grandchildren.

"They're all such fine boys," she said. "Our main crop is our children, and the farm is a good place to raise them."

Ochs started taking classes at Dodge City Community College after her husband of 39 years, Vernon, died in 1972. A class here and there over the years, and she was close to having enough hours for an undergraduate degree.

Last fall, Ochs moved the 100 miles from her farm southwest of Jetmore to an apartment on campus to complete the final 30 hours to get a general studies degree with an emphasis on history.

At 5-foot-2, her white hair pulled into a bun, she walks purposely down hallways to classes with her books in a cloth tote bag. Students nod and smile; she's described as witty, charming and down to earth.

"Everybody has accepted me, and I feel just like another student," she said. "The students respect me."

Coming out of a classroom, Skyla Foster, a junior majoring in history, sees Ochs and calls out to her. To everyone on campus, she's "Nola," not Mrs. Ochs — and that's the way she wants it.

"She is pretty neat, a very interesting person and very knowledgeable," Foster said.

Todd Leahy, history department chairman, wondered at first if Ochs could keep up with the other students. After her second week, all doubts were gone, as he discovered she could provide tidbits of history.

Leahy, who had Ochs in four classes, wants to record oral histories with her after she graduates.

"I can tell them about it, but to have Nola in class adds a dynamic that can't be topped," Leahy said. "It's a firsthand perspective you seldom get."

For instance, Ochs offered recollections of the 1930s Midwest dust bowl, when skies were so dark that lamps were lit during the day and wet sheets were placed over windows to keep out dust that sounded like pelting sleet hitting the house.

During a discussion about World War II, Ochs told how she and her husband, along with other wheat farmers in the area, grew soybeans on some of their acres for the war effort.

"I would have never talked about that in class, but she brought it up and we talked about it," Leahy said. "She often adds color to the face of history."

Ochs hasn't complained about the work, nor has she asked for special considerations.

In her one-bedroom apartment, books are open and papers and notes are within easy reach when she sits down at her computer to research and write.

"I came up here with that purpose. No, I never doubted it. Other people did it," she said. "I came up here to work, and I enjoy it."

Ochs said she has learned new things. She said she has attained a better understanding of Russian history and the role Dwight Eisenhower played in the D-Day invasion.

An added joy for Ochs is that her 21-year-old granddaughter, Alexandra Ochs, will graduate with her.

"How many people my age have a chance to hang out with their grandmothers? She's really accepted by the other students," Alexandra said. "They enjoy her, but probably not as much as I do."

Ochs said she looks forward to getting home to help with the wheat harvest, as she has done every year for as long as she can remember. After harvest, she might travel or take more classes at a community college.

After that?

"I'm going to seek employment on a cruise ship as a storyteller," she said, smiling.

The determined look in her eye leaves no doubt she's serious.
___

On the Net:
Fort Hays State University:
www.fhsu.edu

95-year-old woman earns history degree
KANSAS CITY, Kan., April 29 (UPI) -- A 95-year-old Kansas woman is set to become the world's oldest college graduate when she walks across the stage at Fort Hays State University.

Nola Ochs -- who is scheduled to receive her degree in history in two weeks -- was born in 1911 and graduated high school just as the Great Depression was beginning, The Kansas City Star reported.

Ochs is said to be greatly admired by professors and students alike on the Fort Hays campus. Her research papers reportedly show model work and she is known as an excellent storyteller -- often reliving history in class for other, much younger students, the newspaper said.

Ochs is also known for having an incredible amount of energy. Before the grandmother and great-grandmother earns her Guinness World Record as oldest college grad, she has course papers to finish, studying to do and a flurry of media attention to cope with.

None of which is reported to be a problem for her. One source told the star Ochs has said she is very much enjoying it all.

Copyright 2007 by United Press International. All Rights Reserved.

A Second Life C



(Picture: Cynthia Groopman (alone, with New York City in background) and Cynthia and other recipients of the honorary Liberty Award for New York City)

She is an inspiring woman; Cynthia Groopman.
Sudden blindess didn't kill her life, instead it gave her new life.
~wonderful is HIS work...


A Second Life C

February 28, 1988, will always be the beginning of my second life.

Sixteen years ago I received a prescription cough medication. Although pleasant tasting, it would change my life and my vision forever.

I awoke at midnight from a fitful sleep with a pounding headache and red eyes that felt like they were going to pop out of my head. Everything seemed hazy.

My dad and brother accompanied me to the local eye and ear hospital. In the taxi, tears began to stream down my face. What was happening to me? I thought.

I was 39 years old, active, vibrant and enjoyed life. I was an elementary school English teacher.

An intern and nurse awaited me in the emergency room. The intern looked into my eyes and measured the pressure, which was 55 in each eye. When I showed him the cough medicine bottle, he said that I was one in five who experiences an adverse reaction.

Immediately the doctor and nurse went to work to lower the pressure with injections, liquids, pills and drops. I was in the emergency room all night and into the wee hours of the morning. I had laser surgery, and the pressure was lowered.

The sight in both eyes, however, was gone.

I found myself in a dark and isolated world. I thought to myself: What purpose do I have now?

In the taxi going home, I listed in my mind some goals to reach by the year 2002. I was just imagining things and thought that this would allay my fears.

In the beginning it was like a bad dream. Going to the doctor. Using drops and Just sitting around and moping.

I felt I had to retire from my job. The medical board asked me stupid questions.

I then underwent intensive rehabilitation and was taught new skills, including cane travel.

I began taking adult education courses from the Hadley School for the Blind. Later, I would become Student of the Year.

In 1991, I became a social work, educational and recreational volunteer professional at the local seniors center where I began to utilize my skills as a teacher. I taught ESL, conducted groups and spoke to the homebound and counseled people. I was named Volunteer of the Year and blessed by the Monsignor.

I was adjusting to life because I had a purpose.

I was photographed for Time Magazine, using the Reading Edge machine and inspired others.

Time passed, and I realized that the goals I had verbally listed on that February night were becoming realities.

I began to write poetry and was one of the best poets for three years. I was awarded a Citation of Honor for volunteer service, the Hero of Winter Exceptional and Role Model Person. My fondest dream came true when, in August 2001, I had a Bat Mitzvah at age 53.

Today, I mentor children and talk to groups about blindness. My letters appear in our local papers, and I am interested and involved in social actions with senior citizens. The ability to use the computer was my last goal, and I had special technology lessons.

My life is full. I have insight, the ability to grow, lead a productive life and see the light of the Lord. My life is truly rich and blessed, and yes, now I know the true purpose of my life. God gave me an unconquerable soul.

By Cynthia Groopman, mailto:Cynthia.Groopman@verizon.net


The Evening’s Coolness
By Cynthia Groopman

As the radiant sunshine glow begins to gradually fade,
Bathed am I, in the coolness of the evening shade

Embrace tenderly by a splendid caress of refreshing fresh air,
My weary soul is renewed with sudden flare
Softness and comfort adorns my heart,
As the stressful events of the day begins to depart

Oh, coolness of the evening you are so alluring to me,
Enfolding me into God’s warm loving arms
of love and tranquility.

Copyright © 2007 Cynthia Groopman.

Working Spirit


Teman saya, pemilik dua perusahaan besar, mengeluh dan mempertanyakan mengapa spirit di dua perusahaannya sangat berbeda.

Perusahaan pertama usianya 51 tahun, sementara yang kedua tidak lebih dari 10 tahun. Perusahaan yang lebih "dewasa" dan sudah berkembang baik, sulit dikatakan punya spirit yang segar.

Karyawannya pulang "teng-go" (tepat jam 5 sore) bersikap hati-hati dan cenderung "cari aman". Sementara, begitu memasuki perusahaan yang lebih "muda", terasa dinamika dan semangat, seolah suasana yang kita alami ketika bergadang di ruang senat mahasiswa, mengerjakan proyek organisasi. Yang jelas, memasuki dua lingkungan kerja yang berbeda ini, "mood" kita langsung beda, padahal lokasinya di gedung yang sama, hanya berbeda lantai.


Kita lihat bahwa spirit ada di udara, mudah terasa dan tercium. Bagi sebagian orang, spirit tidak sulit diciptakan. Terkadang hanya perlu "dipancing" dengan gorengan di sore hari atau kebersamaan saat lembur sampai pagi. Namun, di beberapa organisasi tertentu, terasa bahwa spirit ini sulit dikembalikan, walaupun sudah "diangkat" dan "ditarik-tarik" .


Organisasi yang penuh birokrasi, misalnya, sering membuahkan karyawan yang terlalu berhati-hati, "cari selamat", terlalu berhitung, takut berubah, hanya menunggu ide untuk berubah dari orang lain, dan enggan mengeluarkan ide baru. Tidak ada dinamika, kewaspadaan dan kenikmatan untuk berinisiatif lagi. Bila kita terjebak berada dalam organisasi seperti ini, namun secara pribadi memiliki spirit yang kuat, kita tentunya bertanya-tanya, apakah saya nanti tidak aneh sendiri? Bukankah spirit itu bersumber dari suasana kerja tim? Akankah kita bisa mempertahankan spirit yang segar dari waktu ke waktu? Bagaimana menyuntikkan spirit ke dalam diri sendiri, bahkan sampai memengaruhi organisasi?

Ingat Umur!

Bila kita sudah kehilangan spirit bekerja, ingatlah umur. Bayangkan profesional seperti Martha Tilaar, yang berusia 70 tahun, tetapi, semangatnya serasa 30 tahun. Beliau mengisi kehjdupan kariernya dengan `passion" dan urgensi. Berapa usia kita sekarang? Masih berapa tahunkah kita harus berproduksi? Bila sekarang saja semangat kita sudah kempis, bagaimana kita akan giat berkarya pada tahun-tahun mendatang?

Hati-hati dengan "Menerimà Apa Adanya"

Bayangkan sebuah rapat yang "garing", tidak bersemangat, di mana kebanyakan orang tidak mempunyai persiapan materi yang menantang, hanya menjawab bila ditanya atasan, tidak mempunyai ide dan pasrah menjalankan kehidupan perusahaan apa adanya Saat seseorang mengemukakan ide berbeda, semua pandangan menghujam padanya. Dan, si kreatif ini bisa-bisa kemudian meragukan idenya. Kita lihat bahwa sikap "menerima apa adanya bisa mematikan spirit sehingga perlu juga diwaspadai dan diperangi.

Pandanglah ke Depan

Bukan saja entrepreneur seperti Henry Ford (Ford Motor Comp), Bill Gates (Microsoft Corp.), Larry Page dan Sergey Brin (Google) yang mempunyai kemampuan untuk memandang ke depan, kita pun bisa! Kita selalu bisa melakukan "benchmark" ke perusahaan yang mempunyai aspek yang bisa ditiru. Kita pun selalu bisa mempunyai obsesi untuk meningkatkan produktivitas kita sebagai individu, kelompok atau bahkan perusahaan.

Bacaan-bacaan mengenai "best practice? profesi dan perusahaan serupa tidak terbatas jumlahnya. Dari sini kita bisa menumbuhkan mood untuk maju, mentransfer dan merealisasikan ide dan berobsesi untuk lebih sukses.

Bertanyalah, "Bagaimana Caranya?"

Bisnis dan situasi negara kita sëkarang membutuhkan produk baru, cara dan metode produksi, pasar baru, kecepatan, transfer kekuatan, dan informasi. Bagaimana mungkin kita tinggal diam dan menunggu?

Kita bisa mengaktifkan otak dan selalu mencari cara baru. Seberapa pun kecil peranan kita di perusahaan, bantulah untuk memikirkan "improvement" , karena hal ini pasti akan berguna bagi
perusahaan, tim dan diri Anda sendiri. Selain itu kekuatan spirit Anda akan terasa oleh atasan. Dengan demikian kita secara tidak langsung membuat harapan baru bagi diri sendiri setiap saat dan terbiasa menanggulangi ancaman.

Kembangkan mindset "Memulai"

Menjadi orang yang pertama maju ke depan memimpin diskusi, memberi
tanggapan atas email kolega, mengirimkan notulen rapat ke pelanggan yang baru dikunjungi, sama sekali tidak sulit! Dampaknya terhadap
diri sendiri-lah yang lebih besar. Kita akan mendapatkan apresiasi
orang lain, dipandang sebagai orang yang gesit. Bayangkan kalau kita
selalu menjadi orang yang pertama menyapa "halo" di setiap kontak
dengan orang lain. Kita pasti akan menebar semangat. Dan, untuk diri
sendiri, kita akan menumbuhkan semangat ekstra sebagai pemulai dan
penyerang tidak sekedar responsif.

Cintai Teknologi

Pemrosesan data, jaringan internet, telekomunikasi tidak pernah bisa
kita hindari. Teknologi juga berkembang demikian pesat sehingga sulit diikuti. Rasanya baru beberapa tahun saja kita menikmati teknologi GPRS, CDMA. Sekarang, kalau tidak ber-3G-ria, rasanya kuno. Baru saja, kita menikmati "i-pod", sekarang kita perlu bersiap siap memahami "i-phone'. Bila kita sedikit berusaha untuk menyukai dan memperdalam teknologi, kita secara tidak langsung terpaksa mengadaptasi derap inovasi dan perubahan dari perkembangan teknologi.


Menjaga agar tetap ber-spirit ibarat menjalankan dinamika kehidupan
seorang artis; seorang artis tidak pernah berhenti memerhatikan, berpikir, mengembangkan ide, bereksperimen, mencari ide baru, antusias, bekerja tak kenal waktu dan berupaya menciptakan sesuatu yang unik dan baru. Jadilah orang yang senantiasa hidup dengan spirit. Hidup akan terasa lebih artistik. ***

Sumber: Spirit oleh Eileen Rachman, EXPERD

This is For Me, My Mother & Father...


Laws of Parenting
1. The later you stay up, the earlier your child will wake up the next morning.
2. For a child to become clean, something else must become dirty.
3. Toys multiply to fill any space available.
4. The longer it takes you to make a meal, the less your child will like it.
5. Yours is always the only child who doesn't behave.
6. If the shoe fits... it's expensive.
7. The surest way to get something done is to tell a child not to do it... :-))
For example: Filina, don't spoil it... Soon, you'll have to take a wipe.

For My Papi
At the age of sixty-four, Dad retired. I wanted to buy him something to thank him for all his hard work and sacrifice. As I shopped, I realized there was nothing I could buy that could thank him enough. He had taught me through his own hard work and faith in God that the greatest gifts come from the heart and not the store. That night, I sat down and wrote a list of "Thank You's" to my father for all he had done for me. I left it on the kitchen table for Dad to read before this final day at work.

THANK YOU DAD

For waking up every morning when it was still dark outside and going to work, while we slept in our warm beds.
For teaching me how to pray.
For loving my mother with all your heart.
For teaching me I can never say "please" and "thank you" too often.
For giving me life even after you lost a son.
For being a wonderful grandfather.
For telling me it's okay to cry.
For being my hero, for being my friend.
For translating my first novel, Robinson Crusoe.
For always asking my math homework.
For not asking me why I haven't got married at the age of 27.
For encouraging me to be myself. (This is the greatest gift from you).
I feel easy and comfortable to be what I am now, it is because of you.

What I think of my Mother . . .

4 YEARS OF AGE - My Mommy can do anything!
8 YEARS OF AGE - My Mom knows a lot! A whole lot!
12 YEARS OF AGE - My Mother doesn't really know quite everything.
14 YEARS OF AGE - Naturally, Mother doesn't know that, either!
16 YEARS OF AGE - Mother? She's hopelessly old-fashioned.
18 YEARS OF AGE - That old woman? She's way out of date!
25 YEARS OF AGE - Well, she might know a little bit about it.
35 YEARS OF AGE - Before we decide, let's get Mom's opinion.
45 YEARS OF AGE - Wonder what Mom would have thought about it?
65 YEARS OF AGE - Wish I could talk it over with Mom.
Submitted by Kiri Hyatt

Is He an Inspiring Businessman? Warren Buffet.


His Famous Quote :

“Rule No.1: Never lose money. Rule No.2: Never forget rule No.1.”

Quotable Quote:

“Risk comes from not knowing what you're doing.”
“Wide diversification is only required when investors do not understand what they are doing.”
“I always knew I was going to be rich. I don't think I ever doubted it for a minute.”


[There was a one hour interview on CNBC with Warren Buffet, the second
richest man who has donated $31 billion to charity. Here are some very
interesting aspects of his life:

1. He bought his first share at age 11 and he now regrets that he started too late!
2. He bought a small farm at age 14 with savings from delivering newspapers.
3. He still lives in the same small 3-bedroom house in mid-town Omaha ,
that he bought after he got married 50 years ago. He says that he has
everything he needs in that house. His house does not have a wall or a fence.
4. He drives his own car everywhere and does not have a driver or security
people around him.
5. He never travels by private jet, although he owns the world's largest
private jet company.
6. His company, Berkshire Hathaway, owns 63 companies.
He writes only one letter each year to the CEOs of these companies,
giving them goals
for the year. He never holds meetings or calls them on a regular basis.
He has given his CEO's only two rules. Rule number 1: do not lose any
of your share holder's money. Rule number 2: Do not forget rule number 1.

7. He does not socialize with the high society crowd. His past time
after he gets home is to make himself some pop corn and watch Television.

8. Bill Gates, the world's richest man met him for the first time only
5 years ago. Bill Gates did not think he had anything in common with
Warren Buffet. So he had scheduled his meeting only for half hour. But
when Gates met him, the meeting lasted for ten hours and Bill Gates
became a devotee of Warren Buffet.
9. Warren Buffet does not carry a cell phone, nor has a computer on his desk.

His advice to young people: "Stay away from credit cards and invest in yourself and Remember:
A. Money doesn't create man but it is the man who created money.
B. Live your life as simple as you are.
C. Don't do what others say, just listen them, but do what you feel good.
D. Don't go on brand name; just wear those things in which u feel comfortable.
E. Don't waste your money on unnecessary things; just spend on them who really in need rather.
F. After all it's your life then why give chance to others to rule our life."

TIME GETS BETTER WITH AGE


Read it through to the end, it gets better as you go!
Source: http://home.att.net/~soloshideaway/697/age.htm

I've learned that I like my teacher because she cries when we
sings "Silent Night".
Age 5

I've learned that our dog doesn't want to eat my broccoli
either.
Age 7

I've learned that when I wave to people in the country, they
stop what they are doing and wave back.
Age 9


I've learned that just when I get my room the way I like it,
Mom makes me clean it up again.
Age 12


I've learned that if you want to cheer yourself up, you should
try cheering someone else up.
Age 14


I've learned that although it's hard to admit it, I'm secretly
glad my parents are strict with me.
Age 15

I've learned that silent company is often more healing than
words of advice.
Age 24

I've learned that brushing my child's hair is one of life's
great pleasures.
Age 26

I've learned that wherever I go, the world's worst drivers
have followed me there.
Age 29

I've learned that if someone says something unkind about me,
I must live so that no one will believe it.
Age 30


I've learned that there are people who love you dearly but
just don't know how to show it.
Age 42


I've learned that you can make some one's day by simply
sending them a little note.
Age 44


I've learned that the greater a person's sense of guilt, the
greater his or her need to cast blame on others.
Age 46


I've learned that children and grandparents are natural allies.
Age 47


I've learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems
today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow.
Age 48

I've learned that singing "Amazing Grace" can lift my spirits
for hours.
Age 49

I've learned that motel mattresses are better on the side away
from the phone.
Age 50


I've learned that you can tell a lot about a man by the way he
handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and
tangled Christmas tree lights.
Age 51


I've learned that keeping a vegetable garden is worth a
medicine cabinet full of pills.
Age 52


I've learned that regardless of your relationship with your
parents, you miss them terribly after they die.
Age 53


I've learned that making a living is not the same thing as
making a life.
Age 58


I've learned that if you want to do something positive for
your children, work to improve your marriage.
Age 61

I've learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance.
Age 62

I've learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catchers
mitt on both hands. You need to be able to throw something back.
Age 64


I've learned that if you pursue happiness, it will elude you.
But if you focus on your family, the needs of others, your
work, meeting new people, and doing the very best you can,
happiness will find you.
Age 65


I've learned that whenever I decide something with kindness,
I usually make the right decision.
Age 66


I've learned that everyone can use a prayer.
Age 72


I've learned that even when I have pains, I don't have to be
one.
Age 82

I've learned that every day you should reach out and touch
someone. People love that human touch-holding hands, a warm
hug, or just a friendly pat on the back.
Age 90

I've learned that I still have a lot to learn.
Age 92

I've learned that you should pass this one on to someone you
care about. Sometimes they just need a little something to
make them smile.

Saat Kita Angkat Tangan, DIA akan Turun Tangan


It's a nice story that reminds me to surrender all to Thee.
For some, perhaps this story is a little bit absurd, but for me it has clear idea.
I can understand how I attempt to catch the wind. I struggled in a vain.
Then nice words came to me:
"saat tangan kita terangkat (tanda penyerahan),
Tuhan pun akan turun tangan".
Dia tidak suka turut campur unless we invite Him to.

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A story is told of a man taking a trip on an old wooden sailing ship. He was out on the deck one day and saw one of the crew-members climbing the ropes, going up to the crow's nest. When he was about half way up, the ship pitched to one side and he was thrown overboard.

When he hit the water, he began to scream for help, and flail his arms wildly, as he struggled to survive. The traveler watched as a sailor walked over to the rail of the ship, and calmly observed the man in the water. After a short while the man in the water tired, and began to sink. Immediately the sailor standing by the rail jumped overboard, and rescued the drowning victim.

After both men were safely on board, the traveler went over to the rescuer and asked, "why did you wait so long to jump in the water and rescue this man?"

He calmly replied, "I have found that as long as a man is struggling in the water, there is a greater chance that he will get us both drowned if I jump in too quickly, and try to save him." I have learned that it is better to let them struggle awhile, and when they come to the end of their own strength, I can then jump in and rescue them.

My friend, are you like the drowning man in the story? Have you fallen from your place of comfort and safety, and you are now struggling just to survive? Have you cried out to God to come and rescue you immediately? It is possible that the Lord is waiting until you have come to the end of yourself, and stop struggling in a vain attempt to save yourself, through any means. When you finally admit you can't save yourself, God will jump into the water and save you!

By David Langerfeld

only you can make yourself happy or unhappy


The softer your heart the easier you can handle your sorrow.
human being is not free from sorrow, from troubles.
yet, human being is constructed with special function to detect
what make him/her happy or sad.
Make a best detector and response.

Seorang guru sufi mendatangi seorang muridnya ketika wajahnya
belakangan ini selalu tampak murung.

"Kenapa kau selalu murung, nak? Bukankah banyak hal yang indah di
dunia ini? Ke mana perginya wajah bersyukurmu? " sang Guru bertanya.

"Guru, belakangan ini hidup saya penuh masalah. Sulit bagi saya untuk
tersenyum. Masalah datang seperti tak ada habis-habisnya, " jawab sang
murid muda.

Sang Guru terkekeh. "Nak, ambil segelas air dan dua genggam garam.
Bawalah kemari. Biar kuperbaiki suasana hatimu itu."
Si murid pun beranjak pelan tanpa semangat. Ia laksanakan permintaan
gurunya itu, lalu kembali lagi membawa gelas dan garam sebagaimana
yang diminta.

"Coba ambil segenggam garam, dan masukkan ke segelas air itu," kata
Sang Guru. "Setelah itu coba kau minum airnya sedikit."
Si murid pun melakukannya. Wajahnya kini meringis karena meminum air
asin.

"Bagaimana rasanya?" tanya Sang Guru.

"Asin, dan perutku jadi mual," jawab si murid dengan wajah yang masih
meringis.

Sang Guru terkekeh-kekeh melihat wajah muridnya yang meringis
keasinan.

"Sekarang kau ikut aku." Sang Guru membawa muridnya ke danau di dekat
tempat mereka. "Ambil garam yang tersisa, dan tebarkan ke danau."
Si murid menebarkan segenggam garam yang tersisa ke danau, tanpa
bicara. Rasa asin di mulutnya belum hilang. Ia ingin meludahkan rasa
asin dari mulutnya, tapi tak dilakukannya. Rasanya tak sopan meludah
di hadapan mursyid, begitu pikirnya.

"Sekarang, coba kau minum air danau itu," kata Sang Guru sambil
mencari batu yang cukup datar untuk didudukinya, tepat di pinggir
danau.

Si murid menangkupkan kedua tangannya, mengambil air danau, dan
membawanya ke mulutnya lalu meneguknya. Ketika air danau yang dingin
dan segar mengalir di tenggorokannya, Sang Guru bertanya
kepadanya, "Bagaimana rasanya?"

"Segar, segar sekali," kata si murid sambil mengelap bibirnya dengan
punggung tangannya. Tentu saja, danau ini berasal dari aliran sumber
air di atas sana . Dan airnya mengalir menjadi sungai kecil di bawah.
Dan sudah pasti, air danau ini juga menghilangkan rasa asin yang
tersisa di mulutnya.

"Terasakah rasa garam yang kau tebarkan tadi?"

"Tidak sama sekali," kata si murid sambil mengambil air dan
meminumnya lagi. Sang Guru hanya tersenyum memperhatikannya,
membiarkan muridnya itu meminum air danau sampai puas.

"Nak," kata Sang Guru setelah muridnya selesai minum. "Segala masalah
dalam hidup itu seperti segenggam garam. Tidak kurang, tidak lebih.
Hanya segenggam garam. Banyaknya masalah dan penderitaan yang harus
kau alami sepanjang kehidupanmu itu sudah dikadar oleh Allah, sesuai
untuk dirimu. Jumlahnya tetap, segitu-segitu saja, tidak berkurang
dan tidak bertambah. Setiap manusia yang lahir ke dunia ini pun
demikian. Tidak ada satu pun manusia, walaupun dia seorang Nabi, yang
bebas dari penderitaan dan masalah."

Si murid terdiam, mendengarkan.

"Tapi Nak, rasa `asin' dari penderitaan yang dialami itu sangat
tergantung dari besarnya 'qalbu'(hati) yang menampungnya. Jadi Nak,
supaya tidak merasa menderita, berhentilah jadi gelas. Jadikan qalbu
dalam dadamu itu jadi sebesar danau."

Birthday Greeting




Dear mba Ochie,

Nda wish u
Happy Birthday
God gave a gift to the world when you were born-
a person who loves, who cares,
who sees a person’s need and fills it,
who encourages and lifts people up,
who spends energy on others
rather than herself,
someone who touches each life she enters,
and makes a difference in the world,
because ripples of kindness flow outward
as each person you have touched, touches others.
Your birthday deserves to be a national holiday,
because you are a special treasure
for all that you’ve done.
May the love you have shown to others
return to you, multiplied.
I wish you the happiest of birthdays,
and many, many more,
so that others have time to appreciate you
as much as I do.


With Luv
Nda


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